The Rules of Hating the Other Woman (Yes, There Are Rules)

Ever been cheated on? How do you feel about the woman he cheated with? Less than fondly, probs.

I've been there, done that resentment, so I get it. I'm only human, and when I found out about my boyfriend's affair, you can bet that a large, seething chunk of my heart wanted to find that girl and rip every hair out of her unfortunately adorable head. Three things stopped me: my dignity, my desire not to go to jail, and my very firm no-girl-on-girl-crime mind-set. (OK, and also my lack of upper body strength. I'm not very tough.)

On last night's episode of The Mindy Project, Mindy and her ex-boyfriend Josh's other ex-girlfriend Heather did not display such restraint when charming Ellie Kemper made a return to the show to let Mindy know she was trying to move into her building. Words were exchanged, dirty deeds were done, possible poop pies were baked (don't worry, it was actually just razzleberry, which apparently is a thing everyone has heard of but me), all prompting me to think we need to establish some fundamental principles in regards to hating the other woman. I like this show and adore Mindy Kaling in general, but I didn't love this catfight the first time around, and I was disappointed to see it continue after the initial freak-out of discovering Josh's infidelity. Ladies! This guy screwed both of you, and neither of you was a part of the lies! You should be best friends, bonding over this jerk and also inviting me over to share your clothes and put on each other's makeup. OK, see you Friday night!

In the meantime, I'm laying down the law of exactly when and how much you're actually allowed to hate the other women. In the spirit of sisterhood, I want to say never, but in the cold harsh light of reality, I'm going to give us all a little bit of leeway.

The Rage Rules: