Hooking Up: "Help! After My Boyfriend Orgasms, He's Done For the Night. What About Me?"

You can make sure that you come first (using oral sex, or whatever your favorite form of foreplay is to get you close, or there, before penetration).

Alternatively, you ask him for some help after he's finished. It's true that after guys come, chemical things happen in our brain that make us sleepy, less lusty and sometimes not even cuddly. That said, it's not like we die. While you can't expect him to jump down there and perform oral sex right after he's finished (high-five to him if he does), his hands are free to do a little work. He can use them while you masturbate, with or without a vibrator, and do what he can to help you on your way.

If he balks at this kind of post-orgasm intimacy, he has two options: he can either work on not coming until you do, or expect all action to stop during the times when you come first. See how he likes it!

Do you come first or does your guy? What happens next? Do you both always get to finish?

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