Does He Want A Girlfriend, Or Just A Hookup? 6 Ways You Can Tell

So guys like you. They hang out with you. They date you. They sleep over. Question is, how do you take it to the next level? How do you go from "hookup" to "girlfriend"?

Dear Single John,

I am in my second year of college—I date often, but I have never had a boyfriend. I usually hook up with guys consistently for a month or two, but I never get to know them on a personal level. My best friend recently got a boyfriend and I am realizing I want a grown-up relationship too. How do I take things slow and get to know a guy before jumping into a relationship, or just simply jumping them? And how do I keep him interested with me without getting physical too quickly? - Goodbye Quick GoodbyesMy best friend recently got a membership to a cheese club. And now I want one. Isn't it weird how that works?

I would never tell anyone in college—so much freedom, so many people your age, economic level, education level, and with things in common—to stop having sex, but I'm going to come close to that.

College is weird. I didn't go to school in the U.S. but there seems to be a hookup culture at American universities and dating as BF/GF is rarer. I don't have any problem with that, just something to keep in mind. Like if you were traveling in India, I'd tell you to expect warmth and curry. You want pasta. Fine. I'm not saying it doesn't exist, just that it might be a little harder to find.

I mean, ideally you could just talk it out with these guys and see where the relationship was heading, or what they wanted out of it, but let's be real, guys are liars and sometimes we don't even know ourselves. So here's a quick checklist: